Show Me The LOVE

In this age of internet and social media uprising, almost everything and anything under the sun can pretty much be accessed with the click of a button or a tap on your phone. One of these things are of course, personal relationships.

I have come across some articles and posts that somehow suggests that people who are "showy" about their relationships online are the most insecure ones, the actually unhappy ones. Of course we have to understand that not everything you read on the internet are facts and based on actual studies and research. Sometimes like photos, you have to filter the things you read because it can otherwise affect your day, your week and even the way you live your life if you are not careful.

Come to think of it. Have we become a society that shames people and their way of expressing their love? Yes, we can all agree that some may become a bit over the top or a bit too much for their own good. Some posts are just too much to take in, you almost want to gag! or sometimes you just wish you never had to read that painfully awkward post with a little bit of TMI. But it's freedom of speech. It's a free country and it's free space. So if that is how they want to do do stuff and express their love, who are we to judge?

In the same way I respect someone who prefers to be private about their relationships. Keeping things hush hush, not posting too much photos and just enjoying the relationship quietly. I will respect someone who likes to go loud and broadcast everything out to the "madlang people" It does not necessarily mean that I like it, but they still deserve the respect.

Each one of us is unique and special, and therefore it is safe to say that we love in our own special and unique way too. As long as their is genuine love, mutual respect for each other that is present in the relationship- then go ahead! We shouldn't have to be dictated by the media and the people that patronize the media about how to behave and portray our personal life's choices such us in our relationships. We shouldn't have to be pressured either ways-to be forced to post a cheesy picture just to show I am in love or NOT to post a lovey dovey picture just to show you are not insecure.

I love my husband. And I love appreciating, loving and encouraging him both publicly and privately.There are things that are special when just shared between the two of you over breakfast or a morning coffee or when you go to bed at night and just talk yourselves to sleep. Complimenting him with other people around as well can be encouraging and a good motivation for both of us to do good and improve ourselves and that just merits to be declared and shared to the whole world.

There are days when I just want to send my family quiet emails, send them a personal message and there are days when I just want to express my gratitude and love to them publicly and shout out to the whole wide world.

Both expressions are equally important and meaningful and intentional and sincere. And I don't think my family or my husband will question one from the other. They know my love for them and any manner of expressing it to them will not matter. And I feel the same way towards them too.

If we could all just quit the bashing and the hating and just spread love, then all is well that ends well. We all deserve the happiness in our lives and we shouldn't waste it on shaming and questioning motives and intentions. If she loves her husband, eh di mahal niya! Kung cute bf niya, eh di cute siya! Let us just be happy and spread the love. No to shaming and bashing! Yes! to love and caring!